Somehow, I felt that in any relationship, to reach mutual understanding, each one have to ask the others' opinion before doing anything. For example, if 2 people are going out for lunch. A would ask B where about to have lunch, then together, they figure out what's best instead of A deciding the place without B's consent.
To know what is the best approach, each one must ask also. Like A want to talk to B about something. A would ask B, do you prefer me to write to you or talk directly to you? Of course, writing is a better way to avoid conflict because the reader can use his/her own perception to read it but on the other hand, the meaning might be twisted.
I am not sure if anyone agrees with me, this is my opinion. If I do have a chance of this kind, I will try it out. But I am not brave enough to create this opportunity.
Thank God for my 2 good friends who have always been caring and concern about me without me going to them as often to care about their lives. I hope God will lead this relationship and in all areas of relationship and my life. For I want God to be my leader, if not, who else can I put my trust in?